To Love or to Feel Love


Do you love what you love, or just the feeling? This question was part of a personality test written by Jonathan-Safran-Foer and posted by my friend David Kanigan. A great question that is worth the time to ponder. Giving this some thought it brought many questions to mind. These are just a few.

Do you love the feeling you get or do you love unconditionally?

Do you love when someone is not there or only when you are with them?

Do you spring into action when something attacks what you love or do you sit and wait for the dust to  settle?

Would you die for what you love or only attempt within reason to help?

Can you show your love or is your love just a hidden feeling you can’t or don’t express?

Can you show your love even when it is not to your benefit at the time?

Can you love and forget the shortcomings of your love or do you let the shortcomings affect your love?

Do you always nurture your love or just when you want that feeling of love?

Would you give up anything and everything for your love or would you sit back and wait until your timing was better for you?

Are you addicted to your love for the right reasons or are you just addicted?

Can you let your love go and still love what just left?

What is true love of someone or something? Love is very precious and should hold a place in our heart that no one can disrupt. Only we can spoil that love. That love does not spoil itself. One can spoil love for the other but it was not love that spoiled it. If we could all choose to love unconditionally then love would flourish! The hurts would disappear. The lives of everyone in this world would be affected in a positive way allowing God’s plan for each of us to be fulfilled. The golden rule comes to mind. “Love your neighbor as yourself”. Do to others as you would want them to do to you as my Grandmother always said. True love would change our lives and those around us. My resolution for the future is to attempt to always love unconditionally. What will be yours?

 

Everyone has Faith


  • It takes faith to believe in Allah.
  • It takes faith to believe in evolution.
  • It takes faith to believe that good works will get you to heaven.
  • It takes faith to believe in the Cast system.
  • It takes faith to believe we only live once and then we are dead and nothing else matters.
  • It takes faith to believe we come back to this world as someone or something else after we die.
  • It takes faith to believe that if you kill someone in the name of Allah you will have virgins waiting for you on the other side.
  • It takes faith that when you go to sleep you will wake in the morning.
  • It takes faith that when you get in a car, a cab, a train or an airplane to go someplace you will arrive safely.
  • It takes faith to order food in a restaurant or buy it in a store and believe it is safe to eat.
  • It takes faith that if you work hard at your job you will get a raise.
  • It takes faith to believe you can do something you have never attempted to do.
  • It takes faith………..

It takes some level of faith to believe in anything. We have those that will try to confuse the idea of faith by adding the word blind faith trying to make your faith unbelievable. Some confuse faith in evolution by removing the words micro and macro. Some people speak as if they have all the answers, that they have facts, that they have proof. Some people believe they are better than you or I. Some people have an agenda that is for themselves and not anyone else unless you agree to the faith they have in their agenda.

You see “FAITH” is something that we all have one way or the other. It is where we choose to place that faith that is important. So the next time we find ourselves thinking we have all the answers, thinking everyone is crazy if they don’t believe as we do, take a step back and realize that everyone has faith in their belief. The key is to make sure that where we place our faith is real or has the highest chance of being true. To openly share your faith and why you believe in it, to listen to the opposite points of view, to look into the chance of something being true, to look into the real background of any faith, religion or belief will bring each of us closer to what we should place our faith in. Faith should not be based on what we like to do or what makes us feel the best or what we want to hear. It should be based on something that is real to each of us, something that we can say holds our faith steady or something that is not threatened by others or ourselves because we look into other faiths or beliefs. Real faith should stand the test of investigation by you or others.

So where do you place your “FAITH”?

Memory of the Heart


When confronted with a situation that makes us feel sad or overwhelmed with grief – we many times say our heart aches. When we loose a loved one – we say our heart aches. You may experience that feeling in your chest that grabs your emotions and many time will bring tears to your eyes before you have a chance to put them in check. Have you ever heard anyone say their brain aches when confronted with something emotional? A lot of emotion can cause a headache over time, but not instantaneously.

When we think about memory we generally associate this with our brain. It has the ability to hold our past thoughts and experiences. We can recall them and add them to something new that has happened. We can analyze and rationalize our thoughts.

What Causes our heart to ache?

Several years ago I read a true story about a young girl. It has been a while but I will do my best to tell it as close as possible to how I understood it. She was sick and in desperate need of a heart transplant.  The parents of this young girl were notified one day that their daughter needed to get to the hospital as soon as possible. A young girl had died and her heart was a match for their daughter and it was in transport to the hospital. They rushed her to the hospital, the surgery was performed and she received the heart giving her new life and a bright future. This young girl never had any issues with sleeping prior to the surgery. However, after the new heart was placed in her body she started having dreams and nightmares. She kept them to herself for while but when they keep becoming more real she told her parents about them. The doctors told them that this would pass as she recovered from the surgery. But it didn’t. She would see the face of another young girl. She would see that this girl was terrified of something. The dreams continued and she would see an attacker beating this girl in her dreams and ultimately stabbing her to death. The face of the girl and the attacker were so real along with all the details of the brutal murder including names. Her parents decided to ask about the donor and found that she was a victim in a murder but no other details were made available other than the murder had not been solved. After talking to the doctors they contacted the authorities in charge of the investigation and told them about their daughter’s nightmares. They came and met with their daughter and she told them all the details of the dreams which include descriptions and details including what both the girl and the man looked like and how the murder was committed. These details were impossible for her or her parents to know anything about. The authorities took this information and were able to apprehend the attacker and with the details this young girl was able to give, the authorities were able to make a case and the attacker was sent to prison for life.

So does the heart have memory? Does it have feelings?

It has been proven that there is what they call “cellular memory” around the heart and some other major organs even though we don’t understand it well. In this case the terrifying memory was transfer to this young girl along with her new heart. You can find other examples of this with little research effort. People have had food cravings even though they did not like the food prior to the surgery.

When we say our heart aches it is very possible that this is those deep seeded memories that are not just in our mind but buried deep in our chest around our heart. Is it possible that this is where our soul resides – the core of who we are? In the Christian belief, we say that when we accept Jesus for who he is and ask for his forgiveness he will come into our hearts. He never said into our minds. We hear people say let your heart lead you in the right direction. Do what your heart tells you to do.

Many things we just take for granted. We never stop long enough to give it the thought it deserves. If God gave each of us a place in our body that can be filled with love, gratefulness and even forgiveness, maybe we need to give this some serious thought. Just maybe everything that has been written about God is true. Which ever side of this belief you current sit on, it is important to recognize the possible implications this brings to each of us.

 

When we really don’t Know what we think we Know


Have you ever listened to a comment that you just could not comprehend how anyone could believe what they were saying? I know I have. I also know that I have had opinions and did not hesitate to state them and later finding I was incorrect had no way to go back and correct it. An observation that is so often the reality is that someone will lock in on a belief after discovering what they feel is a good answer and it makes them comfortable. Their investigation will stop. Little thought goes into any other side of the story. Mental and sometimes physical comfort is what human nature generally searches for. Once achieved we don’t want our boat of comfort rocked. We are sailing along in the tranquil waters not remotely aware of the possibility of an underlying iceberg. If someone tells us that they all melt before they reach this area, we believe them. We are comfortable.

There’s a rumble and the boat shakes. We start to fall forward reaching for anything we can get our hands on. We see water rushing in and our feet are getting wet. The water continues to rise as the boat begins to on settle slowly into the icy water. We no longer are on our comfortable ride and we have no time left to go back and alter our course.

Things that are not visible or that we are not ready to comprehend will sneak up and surprise us when we least expect it. We often wonder why. We might become upset with someone or even our self. We might wonder what were the odds of that happening. In the world of science we work to disprove an idea. If we cannot prove it wrong, then we assume it is true and start promoting the theory as a fact. The problem with this type of thinking or problem solving is when we work to disprove the truth, we also can start believing it is true because we haven’t disproven it yet. Just because someone cannot disprove something does not make it true.

One can win the lottery assuming you buy a ticket. If you were to check the odds of winning you would probably not go and pick out your new car or house quit yet. Your chances of winning the Powerball lottery with one ticket are 1 out of 175 million or 1 chance out of 175 to the 9th power. However, it has been proven that somebody will eventually win. In the world of numbers using the globally accepted Borel’s Law of odds, states that for the odds of anything to happen it must be just a little better than 1 chance out of 10 to the 50th power. Yup that’s 50 zeros not 9 zeros. However, with that said, one could argue that it also gives leeway for something to be true if it falls below that 1 chance in 10 to the 50th power. However, anything worse than that would be mathematically impossible. Dr. Harold Morowitz of Yale estimates that for the simplest life form to have happened the odds would be 1 chance out of 10 to the 340,000,000 power and Dr. Carl Sagan of Cornell, one of the worlds leading supporter of evolution has stated that the odds of evolution happening are even narrower giving it 1 chance out of 10 to the 200,000,000,000th power. If the odds of winning the lottery were the same would you play it?

If we only really knew what we think we know.

What do you believe? Were we created or did we evolve? Don’t sit on the sidelines and all of a sudden be faced with the ice below the surface of the water while you are cruising through life. Check it out. Make sure that hidden ice below the surface is not there. Make sure you know your future.

The View of an Eagle


Lifting my eyes towards the sky
Imagining I am an Eagle that can fly
With wings spread wide and head held high
Feeling that uplift can bring tears to one’s eye

The view below was sitting so still
It felt so good it must be God’s will
When looking around the clouds I could see
All puffed up big but soft as can be

As the updraft of air starts to dwindle
Down, down, down I continued
With life’s past thoughts quickly emerging
Both worlds start converging

I start to wonder just what I had seen
Soring so high where the air is so clean
Where it was easy to see and to feel so free
God’s wonderful world came in focus for me

Again I looked down with a new open mind
Treating my past as one of a kind
The updraft was back and rekindled my though
On my wide spread wings it had caught

Higher and higher I began to climb
Above the scant clouds in a very short time
The view from above I could see the earth
I really began to feel my true worth

Life took on a new meaning
A little like spring cleaning
Everything seemed so clean and so free
I just couldn’t believe it, it just couldn’t be

But God opened my eyes so I could see
All is not lost if you just believe in Me
Open your heart and let Me in
And I promise I will forgive all of your sins

I opened the door into my heart
And then my life began a new start
With God by my side I wondered no more
My life had changed right down to the core

As the Eagle flies high
With his eyes he can see
Gods wonderful gift
It’s so great to be free

By: Wm. Forbes

Choices, Choices, Choices – Believe it or Not!


A  couple years ago, I needed to put a stake in my yard to hold a Christmas ornament from blowing away. After thinking about it just a little I remembered I had a sprinkler system. I didn’t know where the main pipe feeding that area was located, I only knew my yard was large and this water line was only 1 inch in diameter. So what are the odds I could hit it when I was only driving a 3/4 inch stake in that little spot in that large area. I told myself that it would be pretty much impossible. Yes, you guessed it. I drove it right into the middle of that pipe and never had a clue what I had done. Come spring I found I had an issue. I told myself that there was no way but there was. I guess we can say the wrong choice was made by me.

When it comes to choices we have to make vs. choices we want to make, I find that they can both get us into trouble. When we make a choice based on only our thoughts which is what I did with that nasty stake, we only have ourselves to blame. I don’t think it was the fault of the company that installed the sprinkler system and if I would have called them up and asked what they were thinking when they put that water line right where my stake needed to go, I’m sure they would have told me that they were their first. Your problem – You caused it – What were you thinking!

But what happens when I make a choice based on someone else’s guidance and it proves to be wrong? Many times in today’s world we blame things going wrong on someone else. It’s many times hard for us humans to admit we could be wrong. So we blame the mistake on someone else. Maybe we might take them to court or just make a serious threat. We might stop being friends with them even if we asked them for the advice. Many things can happen when we make choices. We make them everyday of our lives. Getting up in the morning, eating or going to bed is a choice. It maybe started by making a choice that takes little thought like being hungry, tired or rested. However, it is a choice. Maybe we make a choice to do something because it makes us feel good. We really like a special kind of desert. Then 20 years later and 60 pounds over weight we realize maybe we should not have eaten the whole thing! We realty want something that we think we cannot live without, we don’t have the money, so we charge it! Then we can’t sleep because we can’t pay for it. Must have been that sales person’s fault!

Those pesky sales people can be a bit of a pain if you are not aware of the goods they are selling. They are either there to genuinely help or they are there to make a sale. It is the one that is there just to make a sale that we generally need to be aware of. If we choose to wrap our arms around our own ability to listen, rationalize and ultimately determine for ourselves what we want to believe, we can begin to see who we really are. We can buy into things that are good for ourselves.

I believe that God also gave each of us choices to make. He made a choice and gave each of us a brain and a mind to think with and allows each of us to make our own choice about Him. The problem we all need to be aware of is that there are people out there that don’t want us to believe in God. They have their own agenda no matter what it is. The problem that happens if you follow just their advice, you could be making one of those choices that you have to repair later or it is also possible that you won’t be around to repair it and it will be too late. So we need to be careful when we are making choices about something so important and careful about who influences us and also about who we influence. Clearing our mind of all the junk that clouds the issue and making sure we understand the results of our choices and then moving forward with it is up to us. One way or the other – it is our choice!

God’s not Dead


The movie “Gods Not Dead” has hit the screens and if you choose to go and see it (I highly recommend it), you may see the world from a little different angle even if it is for just a moment. For those of you that have followed any of my writings or even read a copy of my book “Deceptive Influences” you would know this is a passion of mine. I believe that this world was created and that it has not just evolved. I believe that if everyone would take the time or maybe better yet be given the total story via our education system, the world would be such a good place to live. People would love people, people would respect people, all people would have a real truthful purpose in life. It’s not that each of us don’t have goals, and it is not that goals are not important because they are, it’s that so many times we get the important ones mixed up and they end up on the back burner and many times we loose them due to our pushing them so far back we don’t even remember them. In todays world, actually this started back in history in the early 1800’s and we could even track this back hundreds of years before our time, the world decided that God was not so important and that maybe He just does not exist and set out to prove that they were correct. Going way back in time people added new god’s to the equation in search for something that they must have felt made sense to them at the time. Then came the evolutionary theory. No God at all. While this was a very small minority in the beginning, the momentum started to grow in the mid-1800’s. Many people credit Darwin with this evolutionary thinking. He stepped out and published what he felt was important and he did this for a reason. He did this after the death of his young daughter and also his younger son. I can only guess at what his attitude on life would have been. I have never experienced this personally outside of loosing my parents and grandparents, but loosing a child let alone two would be a bit devastating. It was after this that I believe Darwin lost his faith in God. Darwin had went to college and trained to be a minister. His faith was challenged and his desire to find a different path was set.

I believe that this is true for any of us when faced with things in our lives that make us feel uncomfortable, uneasy with what we see, upset with events in our lives, and just plain upset with God. So many people blame any bad thing’s that happen on God. How often do you hear or maybe you have even stated it, “If God was a good God He would not let these thing happen”. People struggle with these issues. I truly believe that if we could allow our minds to just contemplate the total story, we would be able to understanding that it is not God doing these things. I had an example of this explain to me and it goes like this.

“If a father and a son were walking along a path together, and the son fell down and hurt himself, was it the fathers fault? Did the father cause him to fall? Or was it the father that reach down and picked up his son and help him back on his feet or carried him back home?”

Digging into this topic I have discovered that it really does come down to a single question. It should have nothing to do with what makes us comfortable, how we want to live our lives or what makes us happy. It has to do with the truth behind who we are. Were we created or did we just evolve? You may not want to tackle this question or even explore it due to our human inclination to keep our lives comfortable with where we are. However, if we were created then it is a very real possibility that God is real and that what He created is each of us. If we evolved from something, then He is not real. It takes faith to believe in either. It is now a matter of where you place your faith. When placing it one way or the other you need to do this with an understanding of all the information out there and not just what someone wants you to believe. We live in a world that either tells us what to do or provides advertising in an attempt to control our desires. What we need to do is make that decision ourselves based on our discovery journey. Believing in God is not restrictive outside of what we should not be doing anyway and allows each of us to live a great life. If you decide to believe in evolution you should still desire to live by the same rules of life. In either case our life on earth would be so much better if we all followed these simple rules. They are called the 10 commandments.

I welcome any comments and thoughts from either side of this discussion. It is an exciting journey we are on and to share and explore is what makes this life so interesting. Thanks in advance for your support and too each and every explorer that decides to jump aboard this discovery journey with me.